When parents separate, many want something written down that reduces confusion and helps day-to-day routines. A parenting plan can do that — especially when communication is respectful and both parents are trying to keep things child-focused.
This guide covers what parenting plans typically include, how to keep them practical, and the common mistakes that can create conflict later.
What is a parenting plan?
A parenting plan is a written agreement between parents about arrangements for children. It can cover schedules, communication, holidays, and decision-making. Parenting plans are usually flexible and can be updated as children grow.
What a good parenting plan usually includes
- The regular time schedule (weekdays/weekends)
- Changeover details (time, place, who attends)
- School and childcare routines
- How parents communicate (apps, email, text) and response expectations
- Holidays, birthdays, and special events
- Medical, education, and extracurricular decision-making
- Travel and passports (if relevant)
- A method for resolving disagreements (for example, mediation first)
Common pitfalls to avoid
- Vague language ("reasonable time" without examples)
- No contingency plans (illness, late flights, work shifts)
- Trying to solve every future scenario in one document
- Not reflecting the child’s real routine (sleep, school, activities)
- Using the plan as a tool for control rather than stability
If communication is difficult
If communication is strained, a parenting plan may still help — but many families prefer a more enforceable option, especially if consistency is an issue.
Frequently asked questions
Is a parenting plan legally binding?
Parenting plans are written agreements, but they are not usually enforceable like Court orders. Consent orders are legally binding once approved.
Can we change a parenting plan later?
Yes. Many parents update plans as routines change — ideally in writing so both parties are clear.
What if the plan isn’t followed?
If a plan isn’t followed, the next step is often a calm written approach and, where appropriate, mediation. If you need enforceability, consent orders may be considered.
This article is general information and not legal advice.