Separation can be unsettling for children, even when parents are doing their best. Many parents want clarity about what arrangements are possible and how to reduce conflict moving forward.
Parenting arrangements are not about “winning” — they’re about creating stable routines and decision-making structures that support a child’s safety, development, and relationships.
If you’re also dealing with divorce timing or financial decisions, these may help:
What parenting arrangements cover
Parenting arrangements deal with issues such as where children live, time with each parent, how changeovers happen, and who makes decisions about education and health.
Arrangements can be informal or formal, and the right approach depends on safety, communication, and the child’s needs.
Best interests of the child
The central consideration in parenting decisions is the best interests of the child. This is a practical framework that helps guide choices about safety, routines, and relationships.
Ways arrangements can be made
- Informal agreement (often a starting point)
- Parenting plan (written agreement, flexible)
- Consent orders (Court-approved, legally binding)
- Court orders (when agreement isn’t possible or safety issues exist)
Parenting plans vs consent orders
Many parents choose between a parenting plan and consent orders. A key difference is enforceability: consent orders are legally binding, while parenting plans are typically not enforceable in the same way.
Common practical issues to plan for
- School and childcare routines (pick-up/drop-off responsibilities)
- Communication (how parents share updates, and how children communicate with the other parent)
- Changeovers (location, timing, and what to do if someone is late)
- Holidays and special occasions (birthdays, religious/cultural events)
- Travel and passports (consent for interstate or overseas travel)