School holidays can be one of the biggest sources of disagreement after separation. Regular routines change, travel comes into play, and parents may have strong expectations about fairness.
The best holiday arrangements are clear, child-focused, and designed around realistic logistics.
Common approaches to holiday time
- Split holidays evenly (half and half)
- Alternate holidays each year (for example, Christmas Day alternating)
- Rotate blocks (one parent gets the first half one year, second half the next)
- Use shorter intervals for younger children (to reduce long separations)
Practical details that prevent disputes
- Exact start/end times for holiday periods
- Travel rules and notice requirements
- Arrangements for overseas travel and passports
- How to handle special events and birthdays during holidays
Frequently asked questions
Who gets Christmas?
There is no single rule. Many families alternate Christmas Day each year or split the day. Clarity matters more than the exact model.
Do we need consent for interstate travel?
It depends on your arrangements and whether there are orders. If travel is likely, it’s best to set clear rules.
This article is general information and not legal advice.